and trying to see the whole
from my kids point of view. For example: The cupboard with the
interesting, it makes fun noises when you bang the glasses together, it
might be a challenge to stack them...
This helps me to let go of my "they-should-do-thinking". It also gives
me ideas which
alternative activities I could offer or shows me alternative solutions
where everyone wins.
Is there loud music I can
quickly turn off? Or can I turn on music that lifts my mood? Do I
need more light or less?
Why are the children screaming that loudly? Are they
hungry or (over)tired or are they just having fun and should do that
activity outdoors is a great way how to calm down.
Are you or your kids hungry
or thirsty or very tired? Can
you change any of that?
mental break. Go to another room or in the garden
to let steam of. You could even create some sort of retreat. A
place that doesn’t get messed up by the
kids and provides an uplifting environment in those tough times.
Take your child for a walk
or a ride in the car – just to
change the scenery. Especially fresh air and a little bit of
exercise often work a treat (provided you’re not having one of those
Taking a shower
or a bath
visit a friend or someone you trust. Or talk to
your partner to get it all off your chest. Just talking about it might
clear the way to some solutions. (When no one is around, I sometimes
connect with trees and talk to myself for that sort of thing. Opening
up by trying to give love and make a connection first, surely does
stress relaxations techniques
you might want to try
Progressive muscle relaxation (tensing your muscles
and then releasing them to relax them more)