Learn how to calm down quickly and get in control of your feelings and emotions. Change your perspective and other stress relaxation techniques that can help.
Being overwhelmed with feelings and emotions it’s not easy to realize how to calm down quickly. That’s why preparing and developing a strategy that works is essential.
Emotional outbursts often just seem to happen with little or
no warning. That's the nature of things.
But in order to calm down you need to be able to change your behaviour (and thoughts and feelings) quite suddenly. That's the tricky part.
Now, this sounds so very simple. But having an emotional outbreak often feels like being a marionette having little to no control over your feelings. You might feel like a helpless onlooker wishing a fairy would come and make it stop.
At this point you need to realize that you - yes you! - are that fairy. You need to make that decision. Just like sometimes, when you need to make the decision and tell youself to get out of bed in the morning, or to write that letter or do that phone call or or finally get on with your tax declaration.
Stoping alone isn't enough. How long do you stop anyhow? Often life is so fast, that it draws you back into what is happening immediately. That is especially true when you're responsible that something must or mustn't happen.
At those times you want to make good decisions and find a way that works. At the same time having this pressure, often prevents from thinking clearly and in a logical way. What you need is time, sometimes only a few seconds to decide what to do next.
This might be just a few seconds to decide how to get your kids safely busy to find more time to sort your feelings or find better strategies to solve the problem.
Choose the best and write them down. You could even write them on little notes you put around the house. Next time you’re realizing that strong feelings and emotions are about to get the better of you, you could use them even before you’re out of control.Return to top
The goal here is to try to meet everyone's most urgent needs, finding quick solutions where everyone wins.
What you do next depends strongly on the situation out of which your outburst did arised in the first place. It also depends on your principles and bases very much on your understanding of the situation.
It being just before dinner I'd assume the toddler is hungry and/or tired. You can't do much that quickly about him being tired, but a little snack could tie her over til dinner is ready - anything that's not too heavy or sweet to spoil his appetite.
So the more you know and find out about your child, yourself and the typical kind of environmental circumstances, that let you lose your temper, the better.
This is very much learning by doing. Instead of being
frustrated that you have another outbreak use the chance to find out
You can find some strategies that help me to relax and might help you too or spur your creativity with "101 ways to reduce stress".