Lesson 1 in leadership skills – How to get your kids to want to listen to you.
There are leaders and there are those who lead.
Leaders hold a position of power or influence. Those who lead inspire us.
We follow those who lead not because we have to, but because we want to.
We follow those who lead not for them, but for ourselves.
We all are role models to our kids – weather we want to be or not. They copy what we do. But as they get older and older they will only follow our words if they trust us and feel we’re worth listening to. Otherwise they might obey momentarily – but would that be all you want?
So, time for a quick stock take:
How do you lead as a parent?
How do you want to lead your kids?
How much we’re able to inspire our kids depends in my experience very
- How good and strong the relationship to our children is,
- The time and energy we have available overall,
- Our own world view (good leaders are dealers in hope)
- Our abilities and confidence that we’ll find a way, no matter what
- Our vision for us and our kids,
Each of the areas above we can change and improve once we know what to focus on. So let’s find out!
When are you proud of your parenting skills? What is happening then?
What keeps you from leading the way you want to at other times?And what one small action could you do today to be more of the parent and leader you want to be?
Write it all down as detailed as possible.
For your action step please also set a time when to do it if you can’t do it right now. Set an alarm if you need a reminder. Tell a friend (or
post in our comments) to create more accountability. And then do it. :)
Because it’s small actions, that can change the world. Big dreams show the way, but it’s the little doable steps that will get you there.
What are your big dreams and little steps? What are the hurdles that slow you down?
I’d love to hear from you in the comments below. Because in a way we all want to be the best parents we can be for our children. Don't we?
Your experiences, insights and challenges might be just the thing someone else needs to read to feel less alone and more capable and inspired.
Next week it’s all about relationships, how to protect and strengthen the bond you have with your kids.
Thank you for reading and sharing your comments.
Until next week