Learn about the role of non-verbal cues in communication and types like body language. Find help to work on improving your verbal and nonverbal communication skills, tips and research articles.
Improving you communication skills requires looking at the relationship between verbal and nonverbal communication. A nonverbal sign that’s totally appropriate in one situation can make another situation feel awkward and stop any conversation. The key is to find out how the nonverbal cues relate to the spoken words used.
|They can|| complement each other
substitute each other;
|nonverbal cues can|| accentuate the spoken
|But words and nonverbal messages can||contradict each other too.|
Whether you do that consciously or you don't realize it's happening, contradiction between verbal and nonverbal communication can lead to :
Start improving your skills by having a good look at both, your verbal and nonverbal communication, to uncover those contradicting messages. The following types will give you an idea where to look.
Match your feelings with your words
I think this is the most important tip. Nonverbal language is so complex, that concentrating on improving one or two cues only, often doesn't help. Most of it happens unconsciously as well. In this article you'll find examples and strategies on how to match your verbal and nonverbal communication.
Watch your child’s reactions
They’ll give youWhat do they tell you about the way your children understood you?
Ask your kids about the nonverbal signs you see
That gives them feedback and / or the chance to confirm your impression or put you on the right track. It can also help them clarify their emotions.
Become aware of your own nonverbal signs
That is maybe the hardest to do as you usually don’t see yourself to notice all the details of your verbal and nonverbal communication. Try to make it a habit for certain situations and find ways to get feedback.
Practice - a lot
Did I mention a lot lot lot? No one is born with those skills. So practice and reflection makes all the difference.
Professor Albert Mehrabian's communications model gives a statistic for the effectiveness of spoken communications regarding the expression of feelings and attitudes.
Children's Decoding of Emotion in Expressive Body Movement:
The Development of Cue Attunement
A study by R. Thomas Boone and Joseph G. Cunningham of Brandeis University
Facial Actions During Face-to-Face Interaction Between Mother and
Infant The Development of Cue Attunement
by Nadia Denis
"The Art of Perception" The Development of Cue Attunement
An article on how discovering nonverbal cues is taught to cops. What works for them could be a fun way to learn for parents and kids as well – exploring pictures.